Id love to see a red flag exercise at Nellis AFB. Maybe OP married him? There are people just, everywhere, even at 2 am. If all he has to go off of are the stereotypes in movies and advertising then I can definitely see how it would be easy for him to be a combination of jealous and insecure. And she would always schedule conferences for her small business in Vegas, for the exact reasons you listed. All the more reason to get out and build a life with someone who is your partner and not a leach who wants to cripple your independence and your career. Your feigned hysteria of all caps and multiple exclamation points comes across like a rude caricature of people you disagree with. (And yes, counseling 100%, do ASAP since whatever the underlying cause is, not likely to just disappear. Another option is to share infowhen you get there take a picture of where you are stayingshow the agenda, let him know what you are doing, check in at the end of the night. And in really any city, conference facilities are going to be near entertainment options that arent strictly relevant to the business conference, because thats the nature of the city. Hehesitated, but agreed.Onthe third day ofthe vacation, his parents, brothers, and their spouses were all sitting atatable outside whileI was preparing afruit salad. Vegas and Orlando are excellent places for corporate retreats because theyre relatively cheap to fly to and theyre set up for this kind of thing. Meanwhile, there are fewer property crimes in my very small town than there are in hers, and we havent had a murder since the 1990s. Doyou have any tips onbuilding trust, friendship, and respect with your partners family? Plus those casinos take forever to walk across and they are saturated in smoke, blech! Instead, let yourself feel what youre feeling without judgment orshame. I went just this month with my husband. I trusted him, he was fine. Some people get really over the top anxious about things like this such that it becomes its own problem, maybe even more of an independent factor than the sexism thing (which kind of compounds it because its a societal trope that reinforces some of what would otherwise seem more out there on the face of it). That is the hallmark of a controlling person. Illogical or inappropriate behaviors like this are not always a sign of mental illness and mental illness is not an excuse to be controlling or abusive, EVER. This educational content is not medical or diagnostic advice. Oh, every election season angry people show up at 538 to explain that a poll of their social group shows 100% agreement with OP on everything, and so clearly the official polls are generated by a Vast Conspiracy. You know, because theyd been there for the last year and had witnessed all of it and hadnt just heard his side of the story through his rose-tinted glasses. Good luck! If your husband wont go to counseling, go alone. You obviously know this, and you know that your husband is being unreasonable, but your framing Do I do this to save my marriage? worries me, because it signals that you are in some sense accustomed to, or willing to seriously consider, accommodating your husbands irrational demands instead of advocating for your own needs. My husband got sent there on a business trip as well. I went for the first time over the summer. Her hotel room was amazing, and Im pretty sure it had a little museum in that hotel too. So much wow. I have one. That shows lack of trust in me, and thats no bueno. Maybe he is just a lazy dude who wants to keep his cash cow working and under his thumb?? So yeah somethings just not right. I have horrible anxiety. He could show he loves you by treating you as an equal and making you know that your feelings, thoughts, and opinions matter. Im not a fan of Las Vegas (i.e., cigarette smoke, gambling, drinking), but many (perhaps all?) If youre not going during SXSW or Austin City Limits, you can get hotel rooms consistently for less than $200 in Austin. I dont gamble much. A month? So Vegas actually *is* pretty scandalous to a *lot* of people. Or the wife, for that matter. And of course brains being not rational, could be a whole soup of something bad will happen which combines kidnapping, cheating, meeting someone else and Vegas-marrying them despite already being marriedregardless, I think OP should go on the trip. My husband is a bit more of a homebody than I am, and he very rarely travels for work. 5. There are some cultures where marriage is really about the blending of two families. Yeah, cheating is a pretty terrible thing to accuse a partner of without any basis, and personally is an immediate dealbreaker for me. Las Vegas is not my favorite place ever because I dont love big crowds or gambling, but its just a city. Ill willingly concede that deglove describes something altogether horrible, but deplane is an idiotic, unnecessary, invented word. I also suggest that he seeks out personal therapy. If the boundaries within a family are so entangled (by normative American standards), it really is an asset to the couple when their partner has the skills to navigate those extended relationships. Unless OP has a history of partying hard and getting black-out drunk (which doesnt seem to be the case), I think theres little to worry about here. Well, okay, then, if your mom says so!. The next step absolutely should be counseling, but I dont know that its fair for us to fault the OP for not making it the first step, you know? I would be surprised if it were anything more than a coincidence, but I think that reading that letter/advice/comments could be beneficial for this OP to see how it would likely be perceived if she did refuse to take the trip at her husbands behest. Props to you for doing the hard work of managing this problem. Vegas has more hotel rooms than any other city in America, and regular flights to an airport located in the city from every other major city in the country. It probably wont improve the relationship to say this directly to him, but it is definitely something to keep in mind. People have stranger danger drilled into their heads, but woman are far more likely to be hurt/assaulted/murdered by a domestic partner or acquaintance. I went shopping. Im still trying to figure a way out of it, but I wish I hadnt given in to his demands in the first place. I ALWAYS wonder in these cases if the guy actually did do this, or is just saying that he did to bolster his own stance. And, this IS an us issue: his insecurities are damaging the relationship. Ive needed counseling in the past to deal with some trauma that led me down that path, so I wholeheartedly agree with Alison that you both face this problem head on. Me: I dunno, man, that seems pretty significant to me. Once when I ended things with a guy Id been dating, he called me a few days later and said hed taken a poll of his friends and they all agreed I didnt have real cause to break up with him so we should resume things. You can drink and dance and play roulette in 43 of the 50 states. 402 views, 5 likes, 0 loves, 0 comments, 0 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Famosos: #TaniaRincn y su esposo iniciaron su amor con el pie izquierdo: su relacin no era perfecta. (No, actually, a real list.) His response is not reasonable except in AAMs answer. If it's something you really want to do, then I'm sure you can make it work, but it won't be easy. But they definitely need marriage counseling. It seems a loving husband would have found a way for his wife to attend her best friends wedding. Almost every hotel on the strip has some sort of tourist attractions be it rides, shows, or other types of attractions and you can spend the entire day walking from hotel to hotel to see what they offer and have a great (and relatively cheap!) I know you know this, Anonymous Poster, but I want to add something to this statement. My partner has some anxiety when I travel to remote, rural areas by car, especially when I am alone. Jealous? I agree with Alison here. Just Saying. But also, this is pretty clearly a business and financial question. I came here to recommend asking Captain Awkward as well! I thought my mom was the only one like this. Its so odd that he seems so fixated on Vegas (which can be perfectly harmless, I went there many times as a small child and turned out just fine). When I talk to my friends nowadays (still in Ohio, btw! You get into a state of physical arousal (sweating, shaking, racing heart, fast breathing, etc) and it often gives you a screaming headache, roiling tummy, and makes you irritable and prone to tears. Go on the trip and have a drink while youre at it. -OPs husband, probably. I guess it's doable, but I wouldn't do it. Regardless of how we got here, its a problem that we as a couple are facing because of how Im viewing things. So, yeah, count me as baffled by his OMG, VEGAS IS SIN attitude. I do think theres a shadow of a legit work question in there, in terms of when/if its okay to refuse work-related travel. You should protect your son! I work for a global health organization. My (mentally ill) mom does this thing where if theres something she doesnt want me to do, she makes up stories about how dangerous/stupid/inconsiderate/selfish/wrong of me to do it. You can make decisions for yourself! I did manage to save the relaionship (even though Mothers anxiety never went away; be prepared for that too) I truly hope that you can save your relationship with your spose, OP. Take the same approach; its a problem affecting you both that you both want to fix. Right? My husband doesn't want to go because of the 14 hour car ride. If you do this, he will *hate* it; I did, and so did my Mother, when I started doing this. ), Yeah man, Id be super bummed if my wife went to Vegas and didnt take me with her, I freakin love Vegas!. When I said but no one else called their boyfriends he then he shifted to well, if you want to have a relationship like THEIRS I think it doesnt take much poking at this topic to find out if your spouse is anxious or controlling. It really sounds like your husband is trying to control you. Ack. And if you go to Roppongi or Kabuki-cho and get wasted at a sketchy bar, then yeah, turns out you have greatly increased the odds that someone will steal your wallet. We are both off work for the summer so we can easily split up the car ride and stop and get a hotel for. So, hell have to ban the East Coast, too. Eventually I sat him down and said something along the lines of, Dude, youre stressing me out.

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